I don't understand why, I hope you can help me
It's been four years, and I can't forget it. I can't help but think of her recently. When I was in the second grade of junior high school, maybe the students at that time thought it was good to have a pretty girl who was good at studying. At that time, I was very 2, and I was playing a game to pick names. I clearly typed the four characters "I love Yu Yan", and the tragedy happened after this moment. My former classmates might laugh at me when they see her. Why do you still like her? I also want to forget, really want to forget... After I typed this name, a classmate saw it. When I publicized it in the class, the whole class knew about it. After that, when she saw me, her attitude became very...cold? (Okay, I can't tell) I don't know how long it took, but it seemed like... I don't know what happened, but one day, she asked me to call her sister, and I knew something was going on... and I was very excited. One day passed in a blur. The next morning, I saw her coming at the stairs and called her sister, but she was very cold and indifferent to me. I don't understand! Why? Why? Can anyone tell me? This problem has troubled me for a long time. But I didn't see it once... not even once. My classmates often come home earlier than me, and they always say to me, Alas! I saw Xiaoyan again today! I just thought in my heart%&#@…curse God fiercely. Do you know how cruel she is? Every time I add her on QQ, I get no response. I only added her after I added her account, and we chatted briefly every time. I told her my name once. I can't remember what happened at that time. I only know that we both blocked each other later... Every time I wanted to know how she was doing, I went to her space to see, but there were no photos of her in her space, so I could only read what she said... How did she spend Singles Day? I knew she probably didn't have a boyfriend and was probably concentrating on her studies. Not long ago, I heard that a classmate whom I know very well said that she has become very beautiful. I couldn't help but think about her day and night. I even dreamed about her N times in my dreams. I gradually forgot about her. I thought about where there are no fragrant grasses in the world? But I just can't forget it. Recently, I suddenly remembered that the last time I saw her, she talked to me normally, right? She doesn't take it to heart, so why can't I let it go? But, I just can't forget it. To be honest, every pretty girl I see now feels very inferior! I am now afraid of anyone mentioning her. I feel very painful when I think of her. Who can understand this feeling?
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The best way is to find another one. Don't tell yourself the nonsense like 'I can't forget that person.' Even acting sad needs a proper time; pretending to be sad all day will exhaust you. Sometimes it really doesn't hurt as much as you imagine—it's just self-deprecation. Forcing yourself to experience that feeling for no reason can become addictive over time, and it's not good for your heart; it can make you sick. When I say 'find another one,' I'm not making it up—it really works like magic. In just a few days, or at most a month, all that nonsense about not being able to forget becomes meaningless. You'll wonder what you were doing before—was it even necessary? Open your heart, just meet a few more people. Sadness isn't about demeaning yourself, and sadness isn't for showing others, because very few people will truly empathize with you. Most will think you're weak, because in the end, if a relationship fails, it's always the other person who is at fault, not you! Sometimes, a subtle sadness in love can even enhance your attractiveness. So stop torturing yourself!
I understand, this is the feeling of first love. Seeing a beautiful girl makes you nervous; it's just that you have a bit of psychological shadow. Do you feel like you're not good enough for them? Psychological trauma, although it can't completely heal, will gradually fade over time. Just go on a few more dates. Let me tell you, I am currently dating three girls at the same time, and it's going pretty smoothly. I've gone shopping with two of them, and they don't really mind, they just said that when the time really comes, no matter what I decide, they will bless me. There's also a new one, someone I just met after changing jobs.
The person on the 9th floor is showing off, acting like they have more capital than they actually do. Really laughable.
Seeing someone on the 9th floor acting like a jerk makes me really unhappy, I just want to fucking kick you.
To be honest, my experience used to be somewhat similar to the original poster's. But now I've moved past it.
Back then, I liked a girl too, for three years, and my mental state was similar to the original poster. Looking back now, beautiful girls actually consider a lot when it comes to relationships, and trying to move them with deep affection often doesn't work. Being a bit more open-minded might make a big difference.
When pursuing a girl, it's not wrong to be strategic. Gradually building affection and spending time together will eventually lead to another level.
Some girls are most annoyed when the boys chasing them cling to them (many of my female friends have told me this). Relatively speaking, guys who are more easygoing and playful are more likely to be welcomed by girls. There's a saying: 'Women don't love men who are not a little bad.'
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