【You must have met a girl like this】
At first, you tolerated her, gave in to her, coaxed her, and tried hard to make her happy.
Later, you got tired. You ignored her, let her be sad alone, and waited for her to come back to you when she felt better.
Later still, you got annoyed. You started losing your temper with her. You began to treat her even more angrily than she did when she was being difficult, ignoring her.
You felt this was natural. You thought she had gradually turned you into this.
But have you ever thought about who turned her into this?
Think carefully.
When she first got together with you, was she not smiling every day?
When she first got together with you, did she not cry or throw tantrums?
When she first got together with you, wasn't she as innocent and cute as every happy little girl?
Think carefully.
How much time did you give up playing games just to talk to her? How much of that time is left now?
How many hundreds of messages did you send her when you cherished her every day? How many remain now?
How much endless longing did you feel if you didn't see her for a day? How much of that is left now?
Think carefully.
How many promises did you make to her that you didn't keep in the end?
How many assurances did you give her that ultimately disappointed her?
How many things did you promise, how many forever commitments did you make, which you yourself now can't even remember?
You got tired of her tears, her complaints, and her little temper,
but you didn't realize how much heartache she endured.
She thought you would always care for her, spoil her, and treat her well like in the beginning.
She foolishly gave her heart to you, letting you either hold it tenderly or crush it cruelly, and you always chose the latter.
【You don't understand why she gets upset over trivial things】
You don't understand why she always has so much temper, always quarrels with you.
You don't understand why she makes a fuss over things that seem insignificant.
You don't understand why she is often unhappy, always crying.
You begin to feel annoyed with her.
You start becoming more and more silent, having less and less to say to her.
You think she is crazy and just want to stay far away from her.
You feel like your relationship is coming to an end.But do you know? Every time she argues with you, her heart hurts so much.
Do you know? She just hopes that you can treat her a little better.
Do you know? Every time she thinks you will comfort her, you make her feel hopeless again and again.
Do you know? While you feel she has changed in a way you cannot accept, she also feels you have changed, but she accepted it.
Do you still remember?
Every time you stay silent and say nothing, how sad, conflicted, and uneasy she is behind you.
Every time you say that you really love her, how much uncertainty is in her eyes while still giving you so much response.
Every time you hurt her or did something wrong to her, how heartbroken and wronged she cries, and yet she forgives you in the end.
She has given you so much tolerance, so much love.
She has given you so much hope, so much trust.
Yet you cruelly break her heart again and again.
You have done so many excessive things, and she never thought of leaving you. So what's wrong with her making a fuss sometimes? Besides, is she really being unreasonable?
[You dislike that she always checks your phone and your chat history]
You dislike that when she sees you talking to other girls, she cries, throws a tantrum, and ignores you.
You dislike that she controls too much and too strictly, making you feel you've lost your freedom.
You dislike that she is so nagging and emotional.
You think the things you did aren't a big deal.
You think you haven't wronged her or provoked her.
You think nothing happened, yet she makes a fuss.
You think she is so annoying, making you unhappy every day.
But why, among so many people in this world, did it have to be her with you?
Why doesn't she check on others?
Why doesn't she spy on other people's lives every day?
Why doesn't she throw tantrums or act “unreasonably” with anyone else?
Isn't it because she cares about you?
Isn't it because she's jealous and wants your attention?
Isn't it because she's afraid that you might leave if she's not careful?
Isn't it because she's afraid that if she relaxes, unsettled you won't be hers anymore?
[Can't you think more about her?]Think about every time you were sick or upset, how she looked even more distressed than you. Think about every long message she sent after you argued. Think about how she always remembers every anniversary. Think about the carefully prepared gifts she gave you. Think about how she forgave all the terrible things you once did. Think about how after every apology and return, she still willingly stayed with you. Think about how she agreed to every request you made and tried her best to make you satisfied. Think about how whenever you said what you wanted to eat, do, or where you wanted to go, she always accompanied you, even though she'd get scolded at home. This isn't her duty or her task. She had no particular connection with you originally. It's just because she loves you, she loves this version of you. Even if you've broken her heart, she still loves you; she's willing to treat you well no matter what. Someone who loves you so much, how could she be unreasonable with you? Even if you don't realize it, it's really you who made her sad.
[I am just a little woman, I am not a superhero.] I am fragile, I have no sense of security, maybe one day I will be tired too. I don't like crying, I also like to smile beautifully every day. I don't want to lower my head and stay silent. I need your understanding, your love, not indifference. I consider you the center of my life; my world is only you. I love you, I love you so much, that's why I get upset over every small change in you. Every day I pray that you could show me a little more affection, yet I don't dare to demand too much from you.
Do you really want me to stop fussing with you? Okay, wait until the day I truly stop caring about you. Do you really want me to never cry or get angry so easily again? Okay, wait until the day I am completely hurt and numb from you. Are you really considering breaking up with me? Okay, I hope that on some day far in the future, you will not regret it. In the end, we both cried.