Lately, I often see posts where some girls say they've been hurt by men and no longer believe in love, and even posts about selling their virginity. The reason is surprisingly, "I'd rather sell my own first time than let a boyfriend who has been with several other girls have my first time."
In fact, not all men nowadays are inherently bad; that's just a small minority. Most are just immature, wanting to experience excitement and have fun. Most of them don't have a proper concept of love, and most are under 26.
Many girls meet boys in this age group in college or even high school, give them their first time, and end up in tragedy = =! Then they stop believing in love and all sorts of feelings come up. I just want to say that the most beautiful things come at the end—if you can endure loneliness and wait, true happiness will come to you. Everyone has moments of solitude; we need to learn to endure loneliness to grow mature. Don't let loneliness make you lose your sense and do meaningless, unbeneficial things, wasting precious time. There are plenty of good men; many of my friends are good men. But "good men," like "ladies," lose meaning when self-proclaimed. No truly good man would declare himself as good. So it's just hard to find them. More often, it's because they are inexperienced, don't have a stable income or job, and can't provide the protection and happiness they want for the person they love. It takes time for them to fully mature.
You have the right to choose your life; I chose to remain pure before marriage. Actions speak louder than words, and I believe waiting for my wife is worthwhile. I once heard a saying:
"If you cannot dress her in a wedding gown, put down the hands that would undress her." Lick has a classic line:
"Girls, even if you don't have a boyfriend, that doesn't mean you aren't beautiful or that no one loves you. You don't need to use your body as a tool to feel needed." You may think that even if you're not a virgin, men will want you, but have you thought about afterwards? How will you educate your children? Can you ensure your in-laws won't gossip about you? Can you confidently confront it if your future husband cheats? Whether you believe it or not, a woman's virginity is always the best dowry for the man. No matter how society develops or becomes open, mainstream morality hasn't changed much in a thousand years. I don't want to preach too much.I hope that many years from now, I won't regret the mistakes I made in the past. Society is becoming increasingly restless and utilitarian, so why is it always others who influence you? I think it might be due to a lack of independent personality. People without an independent personality always like to follow the trend: everyone is doing it, so it's not a big deal if I do it too; I don't care about right or wrong, if everyone is doing it, I can do it too. Have you ever wondered why you always follow others, why when others fall, you also fall? A strong personality can see the world clearly, remain unaffected by external things, and make its own judgments. Try to act according to your inner will. You might say, 'I won't do it, but others will.' You need to recognize the need for change. Change yourself first, then go on to change others. \ The greatest luck for a person is to have the ability to change themselves. \ As long as you don't give up, it won't be the end. \ As long as you are still there, there is still a chance to stand up.
