Reflection, borrowing money from a friend

Author: Li Buyi Source (br) 【This Counts as My First Time Borrowing Money from Friends】

A period before my marriage, my family was not well-off, and when I needed money, I borrowed from friends.

After thinking it over, I felt that there were seven or eight people who would lend me money because they were in that position.

I started by calling the friend I felt closest to, and I borrowed money from him—I was very happy. Then I called the next one, and kept going until I had called more than ten people.

Some friends lent money immediately, some said they had difficulties but found a way to lend me money, some explained in many ways to politely refuse, and some promised but eventually backed out.

The friends who did lend me money—when I called them at most twice, they gave me the money. The fastest gave it the same day, and the slowest within two days. The happiest was a buddy who brought the money to me directly, and didn't even make me go pick it up. I was almost moved to tears.

The friends who hesitated or didn't lend me money—I called at least twice, visited many times, some I kept in contact with for a week, but in the end they didn't lend me anything. This shook our relationship.

At that time, I felt I had very few good friends—only three of them lent me money. But I was still happy, and there were also three friends who gave me comfort.

I needed 50,000, but I only borrowed 20,000. I felt a lot, but I wasn't sad, because those three friends made me feel very reassured.

A few months later, I started a business and ran short of money, so I borrowed from friends again. 【This Counts as My Second Time Borrowing Money from Friends】

I went to the same friends again, borrowing a few thousand from each. They all had the financial capacity, so it wasn't a big problem for them.

First, I called the friends who had refused to lend me money the last time, and again, they declined.

Finally, I asked those friends who lent me money last time, and without exception, they lent to me again. The process took no more than three days.

This time, for all the calls, I needed to dial at most twice.

This time, I needed 20,000, but I borrowed 40,000 because my good friends encouraged me in my business and lent me more.

From this, I realized that the friends who lent me money were serious with me—they are my good friends, and I should feel fortunate and cherish them.

Those who never lent me money were not serious; they were just acquaintances with a layer of friendship.After some time had passed, there was one time when I didn't have enough money while I was out. I only made three phone calls, and that was enough to get the money. I needed ten thousand, and I immediately borrowed ten thousand within half a day. [This is what it means to borrow money from friends.] I am very grateful to these few good friends. I may not say it out loud, but I understand it in my heart. These experiences made me understand what kind of friends are people you can hang out with and what kind of friends are people you can rely on. So even if you are very popular, there are only a few people who can help you when you are in trouble; they are your true friends.