"Online Digest" People Who Are Willing to Slow Down With You

I heard from a friend that he is a rigid man. He doesn't go clubbing, doesn't drink, doesn't play cards, and doesn't even smoke. At first, I really thought he was a model man of the new century, but later, I gradually realized how boring this so-called perfection could be.\ My friend is a beautiful woman, with bright black eyes and hair like silk. Any man who wants to pursue her is easy to find in large numbers. Yet she preferred him, feeling that he was dependable and reliable. In this era, there are too many smooth-talking, humorous, and witty men. Precisely because of this, dependable people are becoming increasingly rare.\ It's only when they really live together that one realizes how dull reliability can be. When she said she wanted to go sing, he said it would be better to go home and read; when she said she wanted to go clubbing, he said it would be better to stay at home and watch TV; when she said she wanted to have a picnic, he said it would be better to cook something good at home.\ Their lives were completely out of sync. Over time, boredom was inevitable. Besides, my friend was not born to be a contented, domestic woman.\ What angered her most was that when she suggested breaking up, he didn't try to stop her at all. He just coldly said: “Those who want to leave cannot be stopped, and those who should stay won't leave.” Keep in mind how many men had clung on, begging her just to have a meal with them.\ In fact, she did not really intend to separate; it was just that after saying so much, there was no reason left to continue.
Because both of their backgrounds were quite good, she quickly found a wealthy second-generation handsome guy. A talented man with a beautiful woman; wherever they stood, the heads would turn 100% of the time.\ When her daughter was four, this rich guy began living with another woman.\ By that time, she had cut her long hair and spent her days in the house taking care of her child in an apron, having gained quite a bit of weight. Yes, she was no longer as beautiful as she once was. She remained proud, brought her four-year-old daughter, and took the initiative to file for divorce, asking for not a single penny from him.\ Reaching today has not been easy in many respects. Only now does she truly understand his goodness. During their dating period, he only ever gave her flowers once, and that was after Valentine's Day. She said: "Valentine's Day is already over, why are you giving me flowers now?" He said: “Cheap, you don't know, such a big bunch costs only five yuan, yesterday it was ten yuan per stem!”\ She said he really is a boring man. When he took her into the study, he actually took her there to read. Various masterpieces, various essays, piled densely all over the room. She felt that he was full of the aura of a bookworm.As she spoke, she began to cry. After so many years, it was the first time I had ever seen her cry.

She said, "He really is a 100% good man. It's just a pity that I realized it too late!"

Who hasn't had such a choice? In our youth, when passion is like strong wine and desire like a wild horse. Yet, we often act hastily because we are young, because we are impulsive, wanting to possess each other quickly, wanting to grow old together quickly, wanting to live a life quickly. But in this world, what can truly be rushed? If we hadn't been in such a hurry, perhaps we wouldn't have missed the person willing to slowly accompany us and savor the passage of time.