I personally feel that this is a very good and well-put article.

My girlfriend and I met through a matchmaking arrangement. We dated for a long time and became intimate. I found out that I am not her first man. I didn't say anything, and neither did she. But it really felt unpleasant in my heart. Although housing prices are very high, I still bought a house. I also bought her a ring worth over 10,000 yuan. But I never mentioned getting married. I am someone who is willing to be dumped by her rather than bear the blame for abandonment. She said she wanted to register our marriage, but I said no. She wore the ring, and all our friends knew about it. The wedding still went on as usual. According to local customs, I borrowed a Mercedes, invited some friends to help, and more than 20 cars went to pick up the bride. We had over 40 tables at one of the better local hotels. In total, it cost more than 100,000 yuan (hoping she would feel respected). When I picked her up from her home, she cried. Others thought it was the bride leaving her home, but only I knew the real reason. A friend had a Civic for two years and wanted to change it. I spent 70,000 yuan to buy it for her to drive. Driving a used car while previously letting her live in a brand-new wedding house is already a huge favor. Later, I found out from her friends that she had been in a long relationship with a man during college, but they broke up after graduation. "After the wedding," I am busy with work during the day and go out to "play" at night, but I come home at midnight. I help with household chores as much as I can. I absolutely cannot be accused of being a chauvinist. To this day, we haven't registered our marriage, but the whole world thinks we are married. In reality, we could separate at any time. Property? The house is mine, the car is mine, the bankbook is definitely mine. Am I really inhumane? Because if I leave of my own accord, she would scold me, saying, 'Do you love me or that piece of paper?' If she insists on registering the marriage, I would say, 'Do you love me or that certificate?' I think it's very fair. Now the law does not recognize common-law marriage anymore; no matter how long we live together, she can't claim any of my property because she cannot prove that the property earned during cohabitation was made together. Last year, our son was born. I take good care of him, and he takes my surname. On the surface, there's no difference from a child born in marriage. She has argued and quarreled with me, insisting on registering the marriage, even questioning if a CN certificate is that important. I just said: 'Is the marriage certificate really that important?' and she had nothing to say.She and I are the same. When we're unhappy, we occasionally leave 'home.' The first two times were tolerated, but as the saying goes, things shouldn't happen more than three times. I told her, 'If you leave again, don't come back. This 'home' has nothing to do with you. Take the child if you want to, and if you don't want him, I'll take him and you don't need to worry.'

When she wasn't at home, I brought my third son back to live with me, leaving the child at my mother's house. I told her: because she had already left twice, as the saying goes, things shouldn't happen more than three times. If there was a next time, she should never come back. I would live with my third son, and whatever children she wanted, she could take. If not, they stayed with me. After careful consideration, she returned home.

Her parents and I didn't know about our relationship and always thought we were a loving couple. We worked separately and were financially independent. Her money was for herself, while my money was used to support my house, utilities, and the child's milk, etc. In short, as long as she took care of herself, I didn't interfere, and she didn't need to manage the household or me—it was fair.

In front of everyone, we were a loving couple, but in reality... She also knew her position and no longer brought up getting a marriage certificate or dared to leave home again. She understood that if there was a third time, I would never let her back in. When our son was born, I had his paternity tested. Only if he was my own, would he stay. Although his mother was not pure, the child was innocent, and I would raise my own blood.

Yes, I have a house and a car for her to live in and use. She, however, had nothing, a non-C, but since she had nothing and enjoyed my house and car for free while sharing household chores and childcare work and I covered most of the family expenses, she had no right to ask for more. The house and car belong to me, not her, and she had no right to ask me for a marriage certificate or demand loyalty. In truth, she was nothing. If she didn't want to live this way, she could leave anytime. If she left, she should never come back. She could take the child if she wanted; I didn't care. Three-legged dogs are rare, but young, beautiful women who can bear sons are everywhere. The sooner she leaves, the sooner I find a new one!